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Meeting you where you are.
Engaging without judgment.
Actively listening so you feel heard.

Something's off, and you can't quite name it.

From the outside, things look fine. Maybe better than fine. But there's a gap between the person you meant to be and the person getting through the week, and it's been widening for a while.

15 Minute Consultation

Why Therapy?

Sometimes people come to therapy because something specific has happened and they need help right now.

Sometimes they come because they need one honest, objective voice that isn't invested in the outcome.

And sometimes they come because they've been carrying something for years, it's quietly gotten in the way of the life they wanted, and they've finally run out of patience with it.

Any of those is a good reason to call.

Why Now?

A relationship that's slowly going quiet. You're shutting down during arguments, or you've been told you're emotionally unavailable, or you're the only one still trying. Sometimes your partner won't come in. The work can still happen.

Burnout that stopped being about work a while ago. You're still performing at a high level. That's part of what makes it hard to explain to anyone.

Not recognizing yourself. It usually shows up around a birthday, a promotion, a kid getting older, a parent getting sick. Something that makes you look up.

How I Work

I spent a decade in entertainment and another decade owning and running restaurants before I became a therapist. I mention that because it means I understand the world you're operating in. The pressure, the people who depend on you, the way a career can quietly become the shape of life.

I'm trained in EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method. What that means practically is that we won't just talk about your patterns, we'll work with them. You've probably already figured out a lot of this intellectually. That's usually not what's missing.

The work happens best in an atmosphere of safety, intelligence, warmth, and humor. I'm curious rather than prescriptive. I'd rather be useful to you than agreeable.

Fees

I'm Paddy Aubrey, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles and Sherman Oaks.

I came to this work later than most. During the pandemic I lost someone very close to me, and it changed what I wanted to spend my life doing.

Everything before that — the restaurant business, the entertainment business, all of it — turned out to be preparation rather than a detour.

I work with adults who are functioning well and struggling privately. It's a specific and often isolating place to be, and it's not something you can usually bring up at work or with the people who count on you.

I don't bill insurance directly, though I'm glad to provide a superbill you can submit for possible out-of-network reimbursement.

Indivduals: $225 per 50 min session.

Couples: $235 per 50 min session.

Extended: $295 per 90 min session.

I hold a small number of reduced-fee spaces for people who couldn't otherwise access this work.

Start with a 15 minute call

No paperwork, no commitment. You tell me what's going on and I'll tell you honestly whether I'm the right fit. If I'm not, I'll help you find someone who is.

I'd be glad to hear from you.

15 Minute Consultation